When tragedy strikes and we encounter grief, we should acknowledge that we have experienced a loss of love and dreams.  Why pretend we're above grieving our losses?  Refusal to acknowledge our grief could be nothing more than our prideful hearts saying we are too strong to feel the hurt inflicted on us. 

The Psalms provide examples of people crying out to God in their brokenness and sin.  Just one example is found in Psalm 13:1-2, where David spoke words close to his hurting heart, "How long, O LORD?  Will you forget me forever?  How long will you hide your face from me?  How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart?  How long will my enemy triumph over me?"

As I moved through this period after my break-up, I realized that I had to go on with life, even if with tears.  Seeing myself as too manly for tears seemed only harmful.  I strove to be honest with myself and God.  "Lord, this pain hurts like I've never known pain before.  O Lord, receive the pain and the tears as offerings to you."

Excerpted from chapter 3 of my work, A Shattered Heart: Finding God Amidst a Dating Break-up